《人性的优点》

第一章

不因昨日而悔恨(覆水难收),不为明天而焦虑(船到桥头自然直),活好当下的今天。

与自己和解。

Yesterday is but a dream

And tomorrow is only a vision,

But today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness

And every tomorrow a vision of hope.

Wash only one day’s dishes at a time. Crumple up yesterday’s anxieties and toss them into the wastebasket, and cease trying to wash tomorrow’s dirty dishes today.

I stood yesterday. I can stand today. And I will not permit myself to think about what might happen tomorrow.

第二章

接受现实。既来之,则安之。做最坏的准备,尽最好的努力。

One of the worst features about worrying is that it destroys our ability to concentrate.

When we have accepted the worst, we have nothing more to lose, but everything to gain.

I’ve hit bottom and I’ve stood it. There’s no place to go now but up.

Face the facts: Quit worrying; then do something about it!

第三章

病由心生。保持内心的平静。用正面的情绪(自信、成就)填充自己。

What shall it profit a man if he gains the whole world—and loses his health?

If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.

如何分析并解决焦虑

第四、五章

1. 厘清问题,追本溯源。

2. 列出选项。尽可能多地、不偏不倚地收集事实。

3. 分析事实,谨慎考虑,做出当下最好的决策。

4. 一旦决定,立即行动,不再纠结。

如何停止焦虑

第六章

忙起来,就没工夫瞎寻思了。

第七章

宰相肚里能撑船。别为不值得的小事烦恼,别跟不值得的人较劲。

第八章

别为小概率事件操心。天意难违,泰然处之。God will take care of you.

Accept the inevitable, then get busy and pick up the pieces.

第九章

God grant me the serenity

To accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things I can;

And the wisdom to know the difference.

第十章

付出是沉没成本,学会止损。将过去的错误化作成功的养料,然后忘掉它们。

培养积极的心态

第十二章

He who conquers his spirit is mightier than he who taketh a city.

Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. Think, act and speak cheerfully, and you will feel cheerful.

As a man alters his thoughts toward things and other people, things and other people will alter towards him.

Don’t try to regulate nor improve anyone.

第十三章

When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites,…

Let’s never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them.

It takes a bigger man to walk away from a fight than it does to stay and fight.

Forgive and forget. Never waste a minute thinking about people you don’t like.

Words can never hurt me.

Instead of hating our enemies, let’s pity them and thank God that life has not made us what they are.

第十四章

It is natural for people to forget to be grateful; so, if we go around expecting gratitude, we are headed straight for a lot of heartaches.

If we want to find happiness, let’s stop thinking about gratitude or ingratitude and give for the inner joy of giving.

I have learned not to expect too much of people, and so I can still get happiness out of the friend who isn’t quite true to me or the acquaintance who gossips.

To raise grateful children, we have to be grateful. If we have never taught them to express gratitude to others, how can we expect them to be grateful to us?

第十五章

I had the blues because I had no shoes,

Until upon the street, I met a man who had no feet.

Learn to be happy about what you have instead of worrying over what you lack.

知足常乐。

Look on the best side of every event.

第十六章

I can’t write a book commensurate with Shakespeare, but I can write a book by me.

Envy is ignorance, imitation is suicide.

别和别人比,做好你自己。

Let’s not imitate others.

Let’s find ourselves and be ourselves.

第十七章

不要纠结于自己没有一手好牌。即使手中的牌很烂,也要打好它。

Two men looked out from prison bars,

One saw the mud, the other saw the stars.

The most important thing in life is not to capitalize on your gains. Any fool can do that. The really important thing is to profit from your losses.

第十八章

Get interested in others and see how much you can do for them.

赠人玫瑰,手有余香。

When you are good to others, you are best to yourself.

Smile to the world around you.

The man who thought only of himself wouldn’t get much out of life. He would be miserable. But the man who forgot himself in service to others would find the joy of living.

祈祷的力量

第十九章

What makes a man a Christian is neither his intellectual acceptance of certain ideas, nor his conforming to a certain rule, but his possession of a certain Spirit, and his participation in a certain life.

To him who has a hold on vaster and more permanent realities, the hourly vicissitudes of his personal destiny seem relatively insignificant things.

1. Prayer helps us to put into words exactly what is troubling us.

2. Prayer gives us a sense of sharing our burdens, of not being alone.

3. Prayer puts into force an active principle of doing. It’s a first step toward action.

如何看待批评

第二十章

Vulgar people take huge delight in the faults and follies of great men.

Unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment.

No one ever kicks a dead dog.

第二十一章

Most of us take the little jibes that are hurled at us far too seriously.

Never be bothered by what people say, as long as you know in your heart you are right.

Just laugh.

The more I tried to pacify and to smooth over injured feelings in order to escape personal criticism, the more certain I was to increase my enemies.

第二十二章

I have been my own greatest enemy—the cause of my own disastrous fate.

Let’s keep a record of the fool things we have done and criticize ourselves. Let’s ask for unbiased, helpful, constructive criticism.

如何预防疲劳,保持精力充沛

第二十三章

Fatigue often produces worry, or, at lease, it makes you susceptible to worry.

Rest often. Rest before you get tired.

站着不如坐着,坐着不如躺着。

An hour’s nap before the supper plus six hours’ sleep at night—a total of 7 hours—will do you more good than 8 hours of unbroken sleep.

第二十四章

Most of our fatigue derives from our mental and emotional attitudes.

Form the habit of relaxing.

Learn to relax as the cat does.

Relaxation is the absence of all tension and effort.

If you can completely relax the muscles of the eyes, you can forget all your troubles!

When I feel particularly tired at the end of the day, or when irritability proves that my nerves are tired, I know beyond question that it has been an inefficient day both as to quantity and quality.

第二十五章

Talk your troubles over with someone you trust.

Keep a notebook for “inspirational” reading.

看人要看优点。

第二十六章

良好的工作习惯:

1. Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand.

2. Do things in the order of their importance.Make up a schedule for tomorrow’s work before you go to bed tonight.

3. When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts necessary to make a decision.

4. Learn to delegate responsibility to others.

第二十七章 How to banish the boredom that produces fatigue, worry, and resentment

Where your interests are, there is your energy also.

If you act “as if” you are interested in your job, that bit of acting will tend to make your interest real.

第二十八章

Worrying about insomnia will hurt you far more than insomnia.

The first requisite for a good night’s sleep is a feeling of security.

Prayer.

Relax your body.

Exercise.

Roll the pupils of the eyes upward in the sockets.

我如何战胜焦虑

Read history! Try to get the viewpoint of ten thousand years—and see how trivial your troubles are, in terms of eternity!

I always kept the road open back to that job. It was my line of supplies, and I never cut myself off from it until I was firmly established in a new and better position.

Time solves a lot of things.

Never to call a player’s attention to his mistakes until 24 hours after the game.

做自己喜欢的事,远离负能量的人。

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